Yes, I know there would be a time when I would eventually get here to this topic. Some would wonder what took me so long. You see there is a persona of sorts or impression I tend to portray of being a sexual deviant. That the only reason I am on second life or in an adult chat room is for the online sex. I'm not going to argue with that because I do it on purpose. Obviously I do because I never hide behind the oh I'm really an innocent wearing barely any clothes. -lol- The avi's I wear in chat that are sexual in nature is for a purpose. I've learned the game. I've played the game for so long that I prolly could teach a class.............yah I've thought about that...but thats for another topic someday maybe - laughs-

I'm very overt and out there regarding my sexuality online. There a multitude of reasons of why I do it but I'll keep it to a simple answer for this late night entry:  in rt I'm a repressed never get any sex woman who really wishes I was getting as much as my avi/character does!!! -lol- I mean I am so much cooler online - grinz - I really do have the appetite that I give off I just haven't been able to get that much in rt.

So on to the real purpose of this entry: What makes an experience that is sexual in nature good??? For some people its all about actually masturbating and the end result of orgasm. Seems pretty simple right?? Wrong. There are so many shades of grey here and flavors in the rainbow so to speak. (Warning I'm typing late late so yah analogies will be flying)


Sometimes I want the orgasm but if I really just want to masturbate I'll watch a good short porn flick until I have to slide my fingers down to my wet sex and play until I get the release. Which btw for anyone curious doesn't take me that long. Now if I want to connect with someone on a deeper level its not always about the release. Creating a scene with words - building an emotional connection - where they have a physical reaction is very powerful thing. Think about it for a moment..............if you can make another person so aroused they are compelled to touch themselves or even I've heard that some can reach orgasm with out even touching themselves .....that is ..........erotic.......powerful......overwhelming.......yes???? Fuck yes.

Now can you do that by just saying...baby you look so good - I want to stick my cock in you - or I want to suck your cock - gawd that feels good - yes - I want to cum inside of you. If that works for you......more power to you -lol- It doesn't work on me. Actually I will say I might one of the most difficult people to actually reach me on that level. Yes I fake it pretty damn good - smirkles - Especially in words - I think I can make someone believe I am into it. -shrugs- Years of doing it. Seriously I've been "playing" this game for 13 years off and on and in the last 10 a lot. That much experience should make me good at it. -lol-

Anymore I've realized I can't fake it - yes I've finally gotten to the point where if I'm not into it - usually its when I've made really bad choices and hooked up with someone I just met and realized they don't have the skills nor the right attitude to get me off - I tell them and can't continue. Finally able to say you aren't doing it for me - instead of just going through the motions and then doing my best to never talk to them again -lol-

Ok so here a few tips: Don't describe how the other person reacts or type what they do - You might be able to type a great story that I find erotic - but if i'm not involved how is that personal??? Good online sex involves a connection back forth description of the emotions that are shared in the moment. Let your partner tell you what they are doing and how they are feeling. That makes it more real. The other tip - know your partner well enough to connect with them. Sure having random sex with a stranger on occasion can turn out to be highly erotic but usually - thats rare. Lastly, open honest communication about likes, dislikes, what triggers are turn offs, or what instantly makes you hot and bothered.

I know some are reading this wondering what my personal tastes are. What are my triggers?? What instantly gets me hot and bothered......-smart ass grinz - that you will have to learn like everyone else by spending time with me. What you thought it was going to be that easy???? - grinz-

Yah so I finally getting around to another post this one is a bit broad and I'll prolly cover a few different things - then again it might be all gibberish considering I'm typing this will only roughly 2 1/2 hours of sleep in the last 30 hours or so ......

Ok so in my thirteen years chatting I've realized that friendships online come and go - I know I'm jaded but this the pattern that I see. You meet people online that you consider friends....well lets put them into categories because as humans thats what we do. Society has taught us to do that and there are the same rules online of course with some differences online.

You have those people you chat with when you see them - being if they are not running in the same circles or chat venues that you won't seek them. They provide you something at the time. Entertainment??? Bantering Buddy?? Fuck buddies maybe?? Someone to vent to at the time?? Whatever it is but again you don't seek them out perhaps.

Then you have those people that you want to spend time with online - they make you feel better about yourself when you are with them. They stroke your ego and you would do the same. They understand you, they listen, they play, and all the other multitudes of adjectives. These are the special ones, and yet these also come and go. Anyone who has chatted more than a few years will tell you this is true.We care about these people and if you are lucky you have made the transition from "online" friendship to rl.

Ok so I've noticed somethings lately that just ...........make me question online communties in general regarding friendships....I'm going to give two examples: at chatropolis (regular chatrooms) popularity seems to be based on how well your avi is.....and who you make "friends" with....when I first started chatting there I wanted to be a "cool kid" and realized quickly that I need to get into the certain cliques by dressing well. Now  I will say I am an avi snob - can't help it I have taste -bol- In that kind of environment avi's get noticed and people tend to talk to those more if they have pleasing ones and there is a system to wearing them. For women the more erotic avi's the more you get attention and for all those that are going to say I don't go to an adult chatroom to have cyber sex are bullshit liers. If you didn't want the attention then stop wearing erotic sometimes even pornish images. -lol- I've also noticed this trend to wear other peoples names in your tags - now this is not the love/collar relationship type this is like claiming who is in your circle of riends - what is that?? seriously?? People have to show off or claim others like a gang?? I just don't get it .......

My other example is in second life. Ok so I've noticed that people put others in their picks........at first I thought it was just couples professing their love - blah blah blah - then I noticed a trend where people were putting their "close" friends??? Again I see this as kind of odd....if you need to publicly claim them in your profile, what is the purpose??

I'm sure there will be more later.....when I'm more functional.......