Yah so I finally getting around to another post this one is a bit broad and I'll prolly cover a few different things - then again it might be all gibberish considering I'm typing this will only roughly 2 1/2 hours of sleep in the last 30 hours or so ......

Ok so in my thirteen years chatting I've realized that friendships online come and go - I know I'm jaded but this the pattern that I see. You meet people online that you consider friends....well lets put them into categories because as humans thats what we do. Society has taught us to do that and there are the same rules online of course with some differences online.

You have those people you chat with when you see them - being if they are not running in the same circles or chat venues that you won't seek them. They provide you something at the time. Entertainment??? Bantering Buddy?? Fuck buddies maybe?? Someone to vent to at the time?? Whatever it is but again you don't seek them out perhaps.

Then you have those people that you want to spend time with online - they make you feel better about yourself when you are with them. They stroke your ego and you would do the same. They understand you, they listen, they play, and all the other multitudes of adjectives. These are the special ones, and yet these also come and go. Anyone who has chatted more than a few years will tell you this is true.We care about these people and if you are lucky you have made the transition from "online" friendship to rl.

Ok so I've noticed somethings lately that just ...........make me question online communties in general regarding friendships....I'm going to give two examples: at chatropolis (regular chatrooms) popularity seems to be based on how well your avi is.....and who you make "friends" with....when I first started chatting there I wanted to be a "cool kid" and realized quickly that I need to get into the certain cliques by dressing well. Now  I will say I am an avi snob - can't help it I have taste -bol- In that kind of environment avi's get noticed and people tend to talk to those more if they have pleasing ones and there is a system to wearing them. For women the more erotic avi's the more you get attention and for all those that are going to say I don't go to an adult chatroom to have cyber sex are bullshit liers. If you didn't want the attention then stop wearing erotic sometimes even pornish images. -lol- I've also noticed this trend to wear other peoples names in your tags - now this is not the love/collar relationship type this is like claiming who is in your circle of riends - what is that?? seriously?? People have to show off or claim others like a gang?? I just don't get it .......

My other example is in second life. Ok so I've noticed that people put others in their picks........at first I thought it was just couples professing their love - blah blah blah - then I noticed a trend where people were putting their "close" friends??? Again I see this as kind of odd....if you need to publicly claim them in your profile, what is the purpose??

I'm sure there will be more later.....when I'm more functional.......