Yes, I know there would be a time when I would eventually get here to this topic. Some would wonder what took me so long. You see there is a persona of sorts or impression I tend to portray of being a sexual deviant. That the only reason I am on second life or in an adult chat room is for the online sex. I'm not going to argue with that because I do it on purpose. Obviously I do because I never hide behind the oh I'm really an innocent wearing barely any clothes. -lol- The avi's I wear in chat that are sexual in nature is for a purpose. I've learned the game. I've played the game for so long that I prolly could teach a class.............yah I've thought about that...but thats for another topic someday maybe - laughs-

I'm very overt and out there regarding my sexuality online. There a multitude of reasons of why I do it but I'll keep it to a simple answer for this late night entry:  in rt I'm a repressed never get any sex woman who really wishes I was getting as much as my avi/character does!!! -lol- I mean I am so much cooler online - grinz - I really do have the appetite that I give off I just haven't been able to get that much in rt.

So on to the real purpose of this entry: What makes an experience that is sexual in nature good??? For some people its all about actually masturbating and the end result of orgasm. Seems pretty simple right?? Wrong. There are so many shades of grey here and flavors in the rainbow so to speak. (Warning I'm typing late late so yah analogies will be flying)


Sometimes I want the orgasm but if I really just want to masturbate I'll watch a good short porn flick until I have to slide my fingers down to my wet sex and play until I get the release. Which btw for anyone curious doesn't take me that long. Now if I want to connect with someone on a deeper level its not always about the release. Creating a scene with words - building an emotional connection - where they have a physical reaction is very powerful thing. Think about it for a moment..............if you can make another person so aroused they are compelled to touch themselves or even I've heard that some can reach orgasm with out even touching themselves .....that is ..........erotic.......powerful......overwhelming.......yes???? Fuck yes.

Now can you do that by just saying...baby you look so good - I want to stick my cock in you - or I want to suck your cock - gawd that feels good - yes - I want to cum inside of you. If that works for you......more power to you -lol- It doesn't work on me. Actually I will say I might one of the most difficult people to actually reach me on that level. Yes I fake it pretty damn good - smirkles - Especially in words - I think I can make someone believe I am into it. -shrugs- Years of doing it. Seriously I've been "playing" this game for 13 years off and on and in the last 10 a lot. That much experience should make me good at it. -lol-

Anymore I've realized I can't fake it - yes I've finally gotten to the point where if I'm not into it - usually its when I've made really bad choices and hooked up with someone I just met and realized they don't have the skills nor the right attitude to get me off - I tell them and can't continue. Finally able to say you aren't doing it for me - instead of just going through the motions and then doing my best to never talk to them again -lol-

Ok so here a few tips: Don't describe how the other person reacts or type what they do - You might be able to type a great story that I find erotic - but if i'm not involved how is that personal??? Good online sex involves a connection back forth description of the emotions that are shared in the moment. Let your partner tell you what they are doing and how they are feeling. That makes it more real. The other tip - know your partner well enough to connect with them. Sure having random sex with a stranger on occasion can turn out to be highly erotic but usually - thats rare. Lastly, open honest communication about likes, dislikes, what triggers are turn offs, or what instantly makes you hot and bothered.

I know some are reading this wondering what my personal tastes are. What are my triggers?? What instantly gets me hot and bothered......-smart ass grinz - that you will have to learn like everyone else by spending time with me. What you thought it was going to be that easy???? - grinz-